Reflection & Inner Truth
The Part of Us That We Avoid
There comes a time where distractions stop working.
The music fades. The conversations end. The constant movement slows down. And just like that, you are left alone, alone with your thoughts. Unfamiliar territory given the deliberate effort to avoid this.
We live in a world that rewards noise. There is always something to consume. Somewhere to be. Someone to respond to. Busyness becomes an escape because silence has its way of revealing things we have been avoiding.
Self awareness often feels uncomfortable before it feels freeing.
Because when everything goes quiet, you start to notice yourself differently. The wounds beneath your confidence. The exhaustion thinly laced with productivity. Unresolved anger. Fear. Pride. Sadness. All disguised in the pursuit of survival.
You start to see that you too, have weaknesses.
It’s in the way you push people away before they can hurt you. The way you self sabotage. The unhealthy patterns you learn from pain and began calling personality.
Here, nothing is more important than honesty.
Past experiences can explain behaviour, but they cannot excuse everything. Pain may shape the way we respond to life, but healing requires accountability too. There comes a moment where you must stop using old wounds to justify becoming the one who bleeds on those who did not hurt you.
The truth is difficult to confront
Because it is easier to blame trauma than to sit with the uncomfortable reality that maybe you are the problem. Maybe healing will only start in the place where you accept responsibility. It requires recognising parts of yourself that also need growth. Instead of constantly defending your actions.
Transformation begins when you stop pretending to be perfect, but rather being honest enough to acknowledge what it is within you that still needs healing.
And just maybe that honesty in itself is a form of divine intervention.
A quiet invitation from God to stop running from yourself long enough to truly see yourself. Not just your strengths, but your flaws. Not just your pain, but your potential.
The Parts of us That We Avoid
“Not every veil is meant to hide you. Some are meant to protect your becoming.”
I am not however naive, I know malicious intents still exist. I know the rose coloured glasses are a lie. The reality is alive and intact.
But what if, in my kindness, I simultaneously heal. Heal parts of me that I never knew were hurting.
What if vulnerability is not weakness. What if it was courage.
It takes a special kind of courage to allow people to see parts of you that are less than pristine. Presentable. worthy.
The irony that we live in a dispensation where it is easier to jump in bed with each other than to lay bare our souls…that is true nakedness.
What feels more remarkable is that women who were denied safety often become safe spaces for others. They listen gently. They hold people carefully. They create room for honesty because they understand what it means to move through the world while feeling unseen.
And despite everything that tries to harden her, she remains tender.
Not fragile. Do not be fooled.
Definitely not weak.
Just. Deeply. Human.
And just maybe, that is the most powerful form of healing: becoming the safe space you once needed yourself.